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“I find it hard to get motivation for getting up in the morning and I don’t understand how people can work 9-5 and be completely happy. If I could have anything in this whole world, it would be for me to not be such a failure.”
I can guarantee you are not a failure. I may not know you, or anything about you, but I am certain that you have something about you that makes you special, something that makes others jealous, and many reasons to get up in the morning. The problem is figuring out what they are, and what exactly makes you happy. I have definitely been there. I’ve had days where I’ve just felt like there was no point. But you know what? That’s just life. You have to pull yourself out of bed, find something you love doing and make the most of every day. It’s just too short an existence to not enjoy yourself. Just forget everyone else, do something for you and make your own motivation, even if it’s something small to start with. You’ll get there.
“I’ve written in here about a boy that I’ve started seeing (as a partial result of your encouragement!) and we’ve spent more time together. It’s crazy how comfortable I am with him, and how well we go together (he even said “we are such a good match, it’s scary.”)! I’m trying to take things slow and see how things go, but I can’t help but feel like he’s completely different than all the others I’ve dated. I’m pretty head-over-heels for him, and he makes me crazy happy…I can totally see myself falling in deep with him. Oh dear!”
Naaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaw *squish!* Just enjoy every minute of it!
“When I said ugly boy, I meant the boy who called me ugly.
Xoxoxo”
Oh right, my bad! I’m sorry, I find it hard to connect the secrets week after week at times! x
“I have a love-hate relationship with summer. It loves me and makes me all sticky and hot and gross, and I hate hate hate it back. I wish it was winter still. But, this summer, I decided I’d try and make peace, and I feel really bad that I went on this material shopping spree with my boyfriend, buying clothes and beach stuff and sunnies…. but even though we did that, in fact I think because of it, I feel super prepared for summer. I feel like I can receive it with a little less hate. In fact my boyfriend and I went into the city on the weekend and then walked out to his work to say hello, (he works in east Perth), and he kept looking over at me. He said I was looking really healthy and summery and that it was a beautiful thing to see on me. I feel really glad now that we went out and spent that money even if we didn’t need to. I have a thing about money =/ I get buyers remorse really easily… but anyway, it turned out to be a really good thing. Still obsessively blog stalking you. CK…”
Summer is GREAT. I am totally a Winter person too- I love my rain and my layers, but Summer just makes you feel HAPPY! It’s in the air. All the smells of Summer are awesome. And fuck yeah, stalker! <3
“Today (well as I post this), I am taking a “sickie” from uni.
I don’t want to, and I’m worried that my grades for one class will be affected, but I have a really upset stomach and I have been running on empty energy wise for days now (despite my efforts to eat healthy, go to bed early etc).
I know that I won’t be getting a doctor’s certificate for this and it does disturb me a bit. My attendance will be down 4% than it should be for the semester.
I hate that I feel so woozy and…Yuck. Sometimes, though it comes down to self care. If I don’t rest now, I won’t make it through the next few tough weeks.
I just hope I am not punished for this.”
I know you feel bad about missing Uni and that you are worried it will affect you later- but your health and well-being always has to come first. Even if you are just mentally exhausted, you are never going to be able to concentrate or take in anything when you aren’t feeling 100%. You have to be in the right state of mind to study and it’s pointless pushing yourself when you are unwell. Just chill and make sure you can mentally and physically handle the workload before burning yourself out. It will be better for you in the long run.
“I just had my year 12 graduation. Now, it’s just exams. Everyone is hoping I do really well, but what if I don’t? I know I’m not going to get a really high score, it’ll be an okay score, probably enough for what I want to do, but the level everyone expects? No.
Oh, and I still have assignments to do, and I haven’t done them. Crrraaaaaaaaaaaaaaap!”
Never fear my friend. I’m sure you will do great. Seriously though, even if you don’t do as well as expected, it isn’t the end of the world. I never really understood the whole exam stress thing- though I have always cared more for the creative rather than the academic. Even if you do terribly, there are still options. I truly believe that school doesn’t shape your life- it’s what you choose to do within yourself. You don’t NEED to go to University (I didn’t!) or have a fancy education (I did, and it was a waste of time) to get an amazing job or make money- you just need to be yourself and let your personality shine through. Even the toughest of jobs are known to hire people with less education if the person is right- and that’s what it comes down to. If you did great in your exams but have no personality who is going to want to hire you? It’s always going to be the person who is right for the job, regardless of where they have come from to get there.
“Do you have any tips for starting a blog?
I want to start writing one, but I don’t know how to get anyone to read it!”
YAY. I’ve had websites and blogs since I was 12, and my first tip? Don’t give up. People won’t read it. It will be disheartening. It’s just the way it works. It takes time, sometimes a lot of time to build up a reader base. Comment on other people’s blogs and leave your link. Add it to your signature on forums, link your twitter. Tell me where you are and I’ll plus the crap out of it…hehe. Most people give up after a couple of posts when they aren’t getting many comments- but the main thing to remember is to blog for you. Not for other people. Do it as your personal journal, as a creative outlet, something you enjoy. Be yourself. Eventually, others who share your tastes will catch on.
“There’s this guy at school, we have many classes together because we are in the same major. He has a girlfriend back in his hometown but he’s always liked me. Yesterday, he told me:
“The other day I had a dream and I want to tell you about it” “What was it about?” “You know I have my girlfriend, well in my dream something happened between you and me and I felt horrible about it. I don’t want to tell you what it was because what if it never comes true?”
I just stood there and said nothing; I mean what do you say in a situation like that?
This guy has also told me that he is in love with me in front of a full classroom, he has asked me to go to NYC with him but he has a girlfriend and I don’t want to be the other woman *le sigh*”
Well you are right in not wanting to be the other woman. This guy is going about it all wrong. I’m not saying that he doesn’t mean what he is telling you- but you have to remember his poor girlfriend probably thinks everything is great- while all the while he is telling you he loves you. If I were her, I would be crushed. He needs to get his act together and figure out what he wants, and it isn’t fair to involve you until he does.
“Ooooh when are you going to open your Etsy? I’m really excited, if I’m not dirt poor by then I will definitely buy something! This isn’t really a secret though, so how about….I love you em! Shhh that’s a secret!”
Weeelll, I was hoping soon, as I have some packaging materials on the way but there’s been more delays now and it’s starting to feel like it will never happen. Hopefully soon. Sooooon. I am so over that word! And thanks! I won’t tell anyone…
“Your cupcakes look so yummy! I wish I had a friend, who made fantastic looking cakes like you, I’m jealous. Whenever you post pictures of them I want to reach into the computer and eat one! yum yum yum.
(Not really a secret, but your blog gives me the biggest craving for cupcakes!)”
Aw thanks! Feel free to lick the screen. No, seriously. Do it.
“So… there’s been someone in my life for quite a while now. The only problem is that they are seeing someone else, sometimes happily, sometimes not. I get the feeling that maybe I’m only being kept in the picture for those times when they aren’t so happily in love with their significant other. I try so hard to not be a selfish bitch and wish for him to love me more, but sometimes I get so swept up in his amazingness that all I want is for him to stop, and decide that he would rather be with me. Basically, am I bad for wanting this? And regardless of that answer, WHAT DO I DO?!”
Like the one above- the dude is so in the wrong here. He is stringing either one or both of you along and needs to get his shit together and figure out what he wants. You honestly don’t deserve to be left not knowing.
EDITY EDIT! If this is YOU: You do deserve better than not knowing, and he does need to get his shit together. But it’s there. I can see it’s there, you can see it’s there, everyone can see it’s there- the only one in denial is him. Don’t for a second think that he is using you or feel bad about it, because it is so obvious that he feels it too. You’re not crazy, you’re not imagining it. I’m hoping he will stop worrying about hurting other people and concentrate on being happy himself- because we both know that it would be you in a heartbeat. P.S. I love you. *Squeeze*
“I wrote inside the box last week about how I missed the friendship with my ex. The reason we can’t be friends is because he has changed so much into someone not very likable with no consideration for pretty much anyone else. It hurts so much how someone who was always there for me and cares so much has changed into someone who feels nothing when it comes to me and didn’t even care enough to try for our relationship.”
That’s sad. It’s a shame that so many friendships end the same way. But I do believe in chocolate flavoured pizza cats are the shizzle my nizzle. Ya dig? So…..that was my husband. Remind me not to leave my computer with my blog open…as I was saying…I do believe things happen for a reason. He was obviously not a positive person in your life and you deserve much more. I know as well as anyone how hard it is to move past friendships, especially when they end painfully. Hang in there. It will get easier.
“Your eyes are beautiful. Yes, you. I wish I had your eyes.”
Aw shucks, If I listened to all the nice comments you guys leave I would have the BIGGEST ego. <3
Septum story will have to wait til tomorrow kiddies, Lots to do and no time to do it, it’s already after midnight- eep!
<3 & Cupcakes, Em.
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